Eric with a C — Toxic Jealousy
Content note: jealousy, coercion, substance use, sexual consent Born 1977 We were the same age. We were together roughly from 2017 to 2020. When I met him, I was living on social assistance—no social ties,…
Embracing Change: Zia’s Journey Towards a New Life in Tunisia
Life is a journey, an ever-evolving process of self-discovery, healing, and transformation. Over the past three months, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing and supporting Zia through one of the most profound and courageous periods…
When Abuse Is Spoken About – and No One Listens
Back at Work After a Break Yesterday and today I returned to the cooperative after a week of vacation. Paddy showed up too – even though his sister died just a week ago. Both Paddy…
Pia: “I never thought you had feelings.”
I begin my list of Dramatis Personae with Pia—because she died last week. And because since then, she has haunted my thoughts.Others will follow at some point. Without order, without plan. Just people who shaped—or…
Ben — The Prince Who Promised, Then Poisoned
When I met Ben, I was ready for a new beginning. I was 35, had lost 75 kilos in two years thanks to a gastric bypass, and—for the first time—felt comfortable in my own skin.…
AVPD Survival Guide: Practical, Witty & Effective Self-Help Tips
Living with Avoidant Personality Disorder (AVPD) and anxiety sometimes feels like playing life on expert mode, except no one gave you the cheat codes. If you’ve ever felt like avoiding life’s social circus, dodging small…
When Truth Hits: A Week of Revelations
This week completely overwhelmed me. I had barely finished and published my post, “Paddy – Child Abuse, and What Remains,” when life opened the next chapter—one that I hadn’t even processed myself. Monday: Pia’s Slow…
2003: A Year of Darkness
Content note: domestic violence, depression, self-harm On paper, my life looked almost perfect:I had a successful career as an ORACLE developer at Credit Suisse—a secure, well-paid job. An introverted, loving partner, Ralf—rational, reliable. A nice…
Pfändung oder Bulgarien? Eine mentale Flucht
Letzten Dienstag hatte ich einen Termin beim Betreibungsamt – eine Pfändungsvollstreckung. In den letzten zwanzig Jahren waren solche Termine ein wiederkehrender Teil meines Lebens. Dies ist nicht meine erste Betreibung und wird auch nicht meine…